We are now hitting the regression that happens when siblings are born.
Sydney has been
GREAT since the birth of her brothers. She's helped, loved on them, and flourished and grown. Just recently however, just before her 3rd birthday....she started showing signs of setback.
For instance; her binky. She has been a binky baby and thankfully so since she was tiny. Syd was a very '
challenging' baby. Sometimes the only thing to do was to plug her up. There is a critical time and I don't know when it happens, but
she started to use the binky to self-sooth.
PERFECT. Tantrums were easily remedied, sleep time was a piece of cake, the binky was not a bad thing in our house.
As Syd approached three we had talked about only having the binky at bed time. There were a lot of reminders but for the most part things were moving a long great. Then I'm not sure what happened but the binky and the aggression towards the boys and the pretending to be a baby all started.
Her binky is no longer a separate entity. Sydney prides herself in being able to chew her morning vitamin with her binky in her mouth. She's NEVER without it in the house.
Now, we have discussed it and know that she will not be taking the binky to kindergarten, and she doesn't take it out of the house or when friends are over.
The binky does serve a purpose though. It does still allow her to sooth herself in troubled times. It helps her to sleep. It is very much a big part of her and to take it away (cut the tips, cold turkey, gradually, or any other way) just seems too great a task. Does anyone have a binky story that might help. I mean, someone with a child who LOVED their binky who couldn't go without the binky.
The aggression is also interesting but understandable. They are mobile now and getting in to her stuff. It has now become
HER stuff. I think because Cam was the first to move around and is able to strong arm her, she takes most of her aggression out on him. She will push him, yell at him, pull him off of things. Spencer she still shows affection to a lot of the time, and seems to be more understanding with him...but will yell at him if he's playing with something that she wants.
I don't know how to handle this. Do I punish her for her behavior....because that seems to be making the situation worse. She then holds her punishment against the boys. I've tried to explain that they are babies and don't understand. That doesn't help.
Sydney has become
the baby "
I'm da babay".
She has gone as far as sucking on the middle of my chest (up by my collar bone) and when I ask her what she's doing, as she makes smacking noises, she says, "I'm the baby, I'm eating" Funny, since I haven't breast fed the boys for the last 2 months.
She will put her arms up for me to pick her up and tells me she can't walk.
I feel bad, the boys have been sick and are getting a lot of attention, which is probably a large part of the problem.
I just want some balance. I want them to grow up and be friends....something me and my brothers didn't have. I want them to play together and get along.
I want to have this strong family bond that I see other families with.
I want them to feel like they have equal love and time from me.
I need help and answers.
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It comes and it goes ! This is the picture of my backyard this morning !
As you'll notice the snow is GONE ! It's supposed to be back up to 65 degrees by Sunday. :) YAHOOOOO !
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