I have a theory.....

My little hypothesis.
Let me lay it out for you !

A Gay Spectrum.    I truly believe one exists.   It's taken me years to accept it, but here I am.
When I would hear about girls who were straight and then were gay or visa versa....I felt the rug being pulled out from under me.   It made me mad.   All of the foundation that I had built up to substantiate my being born this way was flushed down the old shitter as soon as some dumb girl said that she had no idea that she could kiss a girl and like it and she really loved that guy and enjoyed sex and all of it.
As I grew up and met all sorts of people some of whom were admittedly bisexual.   I had to give in to the fact that someone could love this way.   Just as I can only love this way.

SO.   back to my spectrum.   Imagine it :

NOT gay <----------------------------------bi sexual-------------------------------------> SUPER gay

I think when we are born....we all fall somewhere on this line.      Whether you want to accept it or not there is a place for you here.

a week ago I was here :

NOT gay <--------------------------bi sexual--------------------------*--> SUPER gay

after admitting to my affection for Robert Downey, I am now here :

NOT gay<---------------------------bi sexual----------------------*------> SUPER gay

:)

I think that those people who feel like they are able to "change" must fall much lower on the spectrum, somewhere in the middle.   Giving them the ability to cross back over to the other side.    Giving them the experience in which to say....look, I have gay feelings and I'm still straight.....so anyone can do it.
Well anyone that falls on that same place on the spectrum.  Yes.  They too could still have a happy fulfilled life
taking the other side.
But what people need to understand.....it's not an option for those people beyond the gray area.
Let me graph that for you :

NOT gay<--------------------------bi sexual------------------------------> SUPER gay

Just like I wouldn't expect someone on the left side to be able to have feelings for someone of the same sex and live a fulfilled life.    Why is it that they expect the same from me.

OH OH OH....and given my mother's advice.   I could just stay single.    Live alone.   Just have friends.
yeah.   that's what I want. 
AGAIN.    I think that there are people who COULD live alone.    Who are FINE not to have physical contact with someone else.    Who never wanted a family. 
But that certainly isn't for everyone and that certainly isn't something that you can just say....oh, you have to live this way because the place that you were born on the spectrum isn't a part of the doctrine in my church.

This is the ONLY part of the spectrum that is ok, that should be allowed to participate in life according to the government and church.   
NOT gay<---------------------------------bi sexual------------------------------------>SUPER gay

That sure leaves a lot of people out.     And I know you are saying....no, because all of the gray area people are still cool....they can switch over.
But how many people are married and lying to themselves, to their wife or husband, to their kids.
How many people are coming out every day and breaking up their marriage because they just can't live a lie any more.
How many people are getting married to live the way their parents and churches and society are telling them that they MUST live.
It's funny, those people who "love" them push them in to a lie and then persecute them for breaking up a home and embarrassing them and ruining so many lives.    I think a lot of the blame should be put on those people who lead them in to the marriage and kids life.

I leave you with a link to a blog.    It was going around on facebook maybe you saw it.    I find it amazing that this kind of thing still goes on.    I mean...why are we still pushing for so many defined gender roles ?
Why aren't we embracing our children for WHO THEY REALLY ARE ?   Loving them for who they want to be ?  Encouraging their strengths and helping them grow to be strong and happy individuals ? Why can't we realize that by telling our children everything is so black and white.....that this is causing the children to also see in black and white and it starts the bullying and hate towards those that don't fit perfectly into those roles ?
That it discourages and hurts the souls of those children that feel different ?
Grow people.    Learn and GROW !

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